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Science for the Journey
Volume 1.05

photo of orange butterfly on hot pink bougainvilla bractsHappy Holidays!

I hope that everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving and are looking forward to more holiday cheer. This month's newsletter is about gratitude, something we think about during Thanksgiving, but a practice that research has shown can actually be helpful as we rewire our brains towards positive thought. Please enjoy the article " Openness and Gratitude" below. Then, check out "Gratitude Journal" for how to incorporate this tool into your own life.

To your journey,

Alicia Ruelaz Maher, M.D.
www.ScienceForTheJourney.com

 

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bamboo pathOpenness and Gratitude

In previous newsletters, we've looked at cognitive processes designed to recognize negative thoughts and transform them towards the life that you desire. One of the central tenets of Thanksgiving- gratitude, offers us another tool. There are times when it's not our thoughts about the situation that are causing problems for us, but rather it really is the situation itself. A good example of this is grieving, or loss. In addition, there are those instances where one just feels too low to get out of a negative thought pattern. And, sometimes, it just isn't possible for the same mind that created problematic thoughts to be able to transform those thoughts into more positive ones.

We know that our thoughts about a situation determine how we feel about it and we know that whatever pathways of thought that we consistently use in the brain will be the strongest. This means that if we always respond to a particular situation with negative thoughts, it is likely that we will always activate that same pathway in that particular situation and always experience it negatively. If we actively use our minds to create new pathways through creating more positive thoughts, however, we can guide ourselves into more positive experience of that same circumstance.

It would follow then, that if we are feeling too low to change our thoughts about a situation, we would continue to activate the old negative pathways. And, each time we use those old pathways, we would be strengthening them even further. In these situations, it is important to do things that keep you open, until new experiences or thoughts can come in. You can't necessarily get from a negative thought to a more positive one about the situation, but you can decrease the strength of the negative pathway by choosing not to activate it.
How can you keep from activating the negative pathway when you are too low to come up with anything positive? There are two approaches that I have found helpful- Openness and Gratitude.

Openness can be experienced through affirming statements that keep our minds open to new ways of looking at the situation. We may not be able to know what those new ways are but we stay open to the possibility, rather than reverting to our usual negative thoughts.

One of the simplest ways I have found is to repeat statements like- "I am willing to see this differently". Or, "I am open to feeling peace (etc)". For example, I may feel devastated about a particular situation and cannot imagine ever feeling better about it. A statement like 'I am willing to see this differently' leads to a shift in the way I feel. I still can't imagine any way of seeing things differently, but a sense of calmness comes over me as I affirm that there might be a different way of seeing it. Rather than strengthening the negative pathways of fear or anger, I am now open to allow other ways of seeing the situation to enter my awareness.

The other way of staying open and not strengthening negative pathways, even when a positive thought about a situation cannot be found, is through gratitude. This does not necessarily mean finding the positives of a negative situation. It might be a bit much to be thankful for not having to clean your house because it burned down. We want to be careful to avoid using this practice as a way to suppress negative feelings. The body responds to suppressing negative feelings by releasing the stress hormone, cortisol. Consistently elevated cortisol weakens our immunity and makes us more prone to illness and injury.

Gratitude is about acceptance of the negative of the situation while also acknowledging that there are positives within one's life. So, yes my house burned down which is horrible. At the same time, I have a supportive community of family and friends that have offered to help. I have a good job, health, etc. There is always some area of one's life where things are going right. Gratitude for what is going right allows us to accept what isn't working without focusing on the difficulty and strengthening the negative thoughts surrounding it. Gratitude keeps your heart open. It is very difficult to be in a stream of gratitude and, at the same time, feel despair for the situation. It is not ignoring what has occurred. It is saying "yes, and".

Of course, like any skill, gratitude will be much easier to incorporate into your reactions in a difficult time if you practice it when things are less difficult. The key is to start being grateful, truly grateful, for little things. Over time you are able to be grateful even in the face of great adversity. And then the next time adversity hits, you're armed not only with knowledge, but a neurological resilience. At that point, you can strongly state, "I know I'll be okay" and truly feel grateful.

Studies have shown that even in those without despair, who are relatively happy, the practice of gratitude can increase happiness levels by around 25%. According to a 2003 paper in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology keeping a "Gratitude Journal" where you write something you feel grateful for, 4 times a week, for as little as 3 weeks, can create an effect that lasts 6 months if not more. These outcomes included increased happiness as well as decreased stress and levels of the stress hormone, cortisol.

In a longer study, which ran for 10 weeks, there was also a positive effect on hours of sleep and on time spent exercising, on more optimistic expectations for the coming week, fewer reported physical symptoms such as pain and an increase in connectedness and willingness to help others.

So, for this month, practice statements of openness and start keeping a gratitude journal. Stay open to possibility and continue the journey to the life you desire.

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Gratitude Journal

You can keep a Gratitude Journal in many different ways. One idea is to write for 10 minutes each evening of all the things that you are grateful for. However, what I have found most helpful is to take a journal and separate it into different sections for different areas of your life where you have an opportunity to be grateful. Sometimes we tend to get caught up in thinking about the areas of life that are not working. By having prompts in several areas, you are reminded of where life might be going well for you. For example, it is easy to forget about one's health when focused on an issue at work. By looking at several different areas, you may even see that things are going well overall.

Some areas to choose from include:

Physical Body/ Abilities
Work/ Finances/ Creativity
Relationships
Beauty of Surroundings
Conveniences
Personal Characteristics
Home
Possessions
Experiences I have had

 

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